A low effort happiness boost for those inevitable days

A low effort happiness boost for those inevitable days

Have you noticed when you most need a happiness boost your motivation is at an all time low?

It is certainly true for me. If I am feeling a little blue, finding the energy for an activity that will boost my happiness seems like the last thing I can do. In fact, when I am lying on the couch under my blanket – the last thing I want to do is work on my happiness.

But, although we might not want to make the effort, it is times like these when we need a happiness boost the most. That’s why I recommend having a few effective low-effort activities you can pull out of your back pocket when needed.

If you don’t have a list already – below are my 7 go-to low effort happiness boost exercises to help get the ball rolling.

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Show gratitude

There is a lot of research about the best way to approach gratitude exercises to boost your happiness over the long term. But for me, gratitude works great as an instant fix. 

When you’re feeling low grab your phone and send a gratitude text to someone. Take the time to genuinely describe your appreciation for something they have done/do. Writing the text will give you a boost as you think about them and how best to thank them. And if you get a nice response – that is a lovely added bonus.

Smiling/Act happy

Your facial expressions play a part in setting your mood. Pretending to be happy can trick your brain into believing you are happy. (Fun fact, a study has found that people that can’t frown because of botox as less likely to be sad.)

One advantage I have found in this world of mask-wearing is when someone annoys me (which is not uncommon) I can grin like an idiot under my mask to start turning my mood around. 

Phone a friend

We are built for social connections and interactions with the people we care about will make us happier. Obviously, some of our loved ones will make us feel happier than others when we are feeling down. So, pick the friend you need and make a meaningful connection to boost your mood. 

If you can’t get in touch with a friend. A friendly chat with an engaging stranger will also help. So put on your fake smile and jump into those “Nice weather we are having” conversations.

Think of happy times

Thinking about a good memory can also help to improve your mood. When you are feeling low, take the time to relax and really explore a pleasant memory. Why were you happy? What did it sound like? What did it smell like? See if you can get a smile back on your face.


Hugs help release your bonding hormone oxytocin which will help lift your mood. The research suggests that a 20sec cuddle is a sweet spot and it can work with humans, animals, yourself and hug machines. 

But if you were thinking about grabbing a stranger for a squeeze – you do have an alternative. Lingering eye contact can also get the oxytocin going – so that may be a better option for legal reasons.


Exercise is a great way to get the endorphins flowing and your mood improving. However, if you are anything like me, what little motivation I have to exercise does not exist when I am feeling down.

So my hot tip is to roll off the couch and start with an exercise that is low to the ground. My personal favourite is push-ups. By the end of a couple of sets, the endorphins have kicked in and I am usually laughing at myself because I am struggling so much.

Try something new

Novalty is a great way to pick up your mood. So put your thinking cap on and think of ways you can try something new with little as effort possible. You may enjoy learning something new on Youtube or getting a new food delivered to your door. Think of the things that interest you and can spark joy in your times of need.

Is your pocket full of happiness boost tricks? 

So next time you are feeling in need – make sure you have a pocket full of tricks ready to pull out as needed. The most effective activities will be different for everyone so make sure you know what works for you.

Please note: These activities are meant for little happiness boosts when you are feeling a little down. If you are struggling with your happiness make sure you reach out to an appropriate professional immediately to get the support you need.

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    How to be a happier person

    How to be a happier person

    Have you consumed a lot of content about how to be a happier person but still seem to be in the same ol’ mood? 

    You are not alone. And there are good reasons for this. 

    In this post, I am going to share my top tips on happiness from not only consuming a mountain of research, articles, podcasts and videos – but also from my personal experience.


    Happiness Set points

    Let’s start by talking about set points.

    We all have a happiness set point. This is a level of happiness that we always return to. Unless we put in some hard work.

    For example, if right now if I gave you a large cash prize or a reward you have always dreamed of. Initially, you would be exceedingly happy. But eventually, you would return to your happiness set point. 

    It also works the other way too. If you were unfortunate enough to experience something devastating. Things would be definitely tough for a while but you would slowly rise back up to that set point again.

    Now, although it is relatively easy to boost happiness immediately in your life. (Think of eating your favourite food or buying yourself that special something.) It is tough to make yourself a generally happier person on a consistent basis. 

    Said another way, in order to raise your happiness set point, you are going to need some dedication and effort.


    Controlling Happiness

    When it comes to your happiness set point – a lot is beyond our control

    About 50% of your general happiness is contributed to genetics. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, how important you are, whatever you do, you are stuck at this level thanks to your DNA.

    The next component that contributes to your happiness is circumstances. You have some control over this – but not really. It is estimated that circumstances could account for as little as 10% to as much as 40% of your level of happiness.

    This means that we can only influence around 25% of our happiness.


    How do we maximise our 25%? 

    There is a lot of information out in the world to help you increase your happiness with thousands of recommended exercises and activities. So much, that it could make you feel overwhelmed and unhappy…

    So, below are my top tips to help you select what works for you so you can boost your happiness permanently. 


    Some happy things will make you unhappy

    It will be no surprise to you that different things make different people happy. So, remember this when selecting your exercises to boost your happiness. 

    It is most likely you will have a gut reaction to the activities that don’t resonate with you.

    For example, research shows that writing and sharing forgiveness letters can give you a lasting boost to your mood. But for me, a historically unforgiving soul, just the thought of writing a forgiveness letter makes my neck tense up and my brow furrow.


    Some happiness won’t fit 

    The right activities for you will need to fit into your daily routine

    As much as you might want to take up a regular mediation or exercise program, in reality, it may be a challenge for you to carve out the time on a regular basis.

    In these circumstances, you may be better off committing to gratitude exercises or random acts of kindness that you can benefit from doing just once a week.


    Some things will make you happier than others

    It is obvious that some activities will make you feel happier than others. 

    Research can give us important feedback on what works on a significant amount of people, but that does not mean it will work for you. The only way you will know is by trying them


    Being a happier person takes trial and error

    The more activities you try, the more you will discover about what resonates, works and fits into your life.

    You can also tweak recommended exercises and frequencies to find what suits you best. The more activities you can find that boost your happiness – the more options you have to utilise.

    Many options are good because variety is also an important component of any happiness program you build into your life.


    Habits are key to being a happier person

    The key to increasing your happiness set point is to adopt the activities that work for you into your everyday life. They need to become habits.

    This will take a while, but once you put in the hard and consistent work, your life will have a permanent happiness boost. And isn’t that worth putting on your hard hat and gloves for?

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      Your guide to happiness formulas

      Your guide to happiness formulas

      Choose your own adventure

      If you are trying to be happier you may be looking for a simple formula – a happiness formula.

      We live in world of systems, formulas and programs that promise to help us achieve our goals. And when it comes to dialing up feelings of happiness in our life – aligning our efforts to a proven equation seems attractive. 

      There are lots of formulas to choose from. But, how do you know which will work for you? 

      If you want to improve your happiness – it is good to treat your journey like a “choose your own adventure” story. 

      Everyone is different. What makes you happy – might not make me happy. So, the key is to find what works for you.

      Finding a happiness formula (or just part of one) that resonates with you will allow you to start thinking differently. It will help you choose a direction towards a happier you.

      So, if you are ready to get started – you are in the right place. Below are some of the basic principles and popular happiness formulas you need for your journey.

      Happiness formula

      Happiness formula rule #1: Explore at will

      Before you set off on your happiness journey – it is a good idea to explore your options. 

      When you do – you will see that there are many different routes you can take. But, this is no reason for concern.

      Happiness formulas are like any equations. If, for the sake of demonstration we assume that happiness equals 4. We know there are many options to get us there. 

      2+2=4, 3+1=4, 8-4=4, 2 squared equals 4. 

      I think we can “happily” agree that all these equations get us to the answers. It’s just a matter of using the one that works for us – when we need it.

      But, which one is the happiness formula you need? 

      I would argue that it is unlikely that a happiness formula is going to solve all your happiness-related problems. But, I would also argue that you can learn some fundamental points from many of them that can help you on your journey.

      So, given all the options, the more you explore, the more likely you are to find things that works for you.

      Happiness formula rule #2: Take what you like – leave what you don’t

      Another problem we face on our journey is, unlike math, the science of happiness is subjective. 

      So, not being experts ourselves. How do we really know that an author’s X + Y = 4 and not 5 or 6? Well, we don’t. 

      The formulas we see are from authors who have years of research, experience, prestige and other important things that add weight to their arguments. So we can use these as one measuring stick for their validity. But all these things might not help you on your happiness journey.

      The real key is to find what works for you. So, I invite you to judge the options as you like and see what resonates. 

      Take from them what you want and leave what you don’t want. 

      Start your happiness formula adventure here

      Below are some noteworthy and popular happiness formulas (in a nutshell) to get you started on your exploration.

      Happiness formula best sellers

      Mo Gawdat 

      The businessman and entrepreneur, in his popular book, Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy (2017), states that: 

      Happiness (is greater or equal to) Your perception of events – Your expectations

      So, lower those expectations. 

      Neil Pasricha

      The New York Times best-selling author, in his book The Happiness Equation (2016), provides many “secrets” and tips with the following happiness formula: 

      Want nothing + Do anything = Have everything

      So, along with your expectations, keep your desires low.

      A happiness formula from a happiness founding father

      Martin Seligman was a founding father of Positive Psychology. A branch of psychology that moved research away from studying the issues towards the positive elements that make as flourish. 

      Seligman’s formula is as follows: 

      H = S + C + V 

      Happiness (H) is your enduring level of happiness

      Set range (S) is your genetically set level of happiness

      Circumstances (C) are the present circumstances in your life

      Voluntary variables (V) this is the part of the equation you can have influence over. This is approximately 40% of the equation and is divided into three buckets. The past, future and present. The more positive emotion you have about these three buckets the happier you will be.

      This formula shows us that we are stuck with a certain level of happiness due to our genes and our circumstances, but the portion we can change involves the way we approach the past, future and present. The more positivity we have with our relationship with these buckets, the happier we will be. 

      So, think fondly about your past, positively about the future and keep trying to dial up your happy vibes in your day.

      A three-part happiness formula from a modern-day happiness guru

      Arthur C. Brookes is a Harvard Business School Professor, author and podcaster. Brookes gives the following equations to consider. 

      Equation 1: Subjective Well-being (Happiness) = Genes + Circumstances + Habits

      Equation 2: Habits = Faith + Family + Friends + Work

      Equation 3: Satisfaction = What you have ÷ What want

      Brookes’ equations echo learnings from the formulas above. For example, we want to curb our desires and we only have so much happiness we can influence. But, Brookes tells us that the key for dialing up our happiness can be found within our faith, relationships and work. 

      Chapter 2 of your adventure

      What resonated for you here? Did you find something that you want to work on and investigate further?

      These formulas tell us that you can make yourself happier. And whether you want to work on your expectations, your relationships, your happiness habits or more – what you need to do is find the right path for you.

      But, the most important step – is the next one. So, keep up the good work, and keep forging forward with your happiness adventure.

      Where does your happiness adventure take you from here? Let us know in the comments!

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        Struggles with finding life balance

        Struggles with finding life balance

        Finding life balance is an ongoing task that we should all pay attention to.

        The right balance can transform your life from feeling average to joyous – whether your life is a three-ring circus, a high-wire act or you are in charge of cleaning elephant dung.

        Life has to be a balance between our preferences and our necessities. But the balance needs to align with who we are and where we want to be. It should be a more holistic (and deeper) consideration than just work and life. 

        Balance in life should be between your fundamental priorities. This will give you a life that feels personally successful.

        To achieve this balance, you will need to start by reflecting on the life you are living now and what you want from it. This should be done in the context of your life’s key ingredients so you can discover guidelines to live your version of a personally successful life.

        These key ingredients to consider include:

        • Happiness
        • Core values
        • Meaning & purpose
        • Personally aligned goals

        Finding the right balance between these could be the difference between a life that feels… blah and a life that feels fulfilled.

        Finding Life Balance

        A balanced life is a successful life

        A life with the right balance will feel personally successful. But, do you know what your personal definition of success looks like? 

        Do you know what you need for your life to feel happy, meaningful and perfect to you?

        It is not unusual to be confused about what is truly important in our lives. We can easily create a life with missing ingredients when we are focused on work, family, etc. 

        So, it is important to take the time to check in with ourselves to make sure we are on the right path (a successful one that we feel proud of.)

        Finding life balance involves happiness

        Happiness is hard to define. But, you know what it means to you and you know if you have enough. 

        In your busy life, this can be an easily overlooked ingredient. But when you make sure you have the balance right, happiness can make a huge difference in your life.

        Take the time to think about what makes you happy. Consider how often these things happen in your day-to-day. Are you happy with this balance?

        Values are at the core of finding life balance

        Another important part of life’s balancing act is your core values.

        Core values are the fundamentals of how you understand yourself and approach the world.

        Living a life aligned to your values can help you feel content with your day-to-day. For example, if you value creativity – days spent being creative may feel ideal.

        It is important to understand what your core values are and how they show up in the way you live your life.

        Purpose is needed for life balance

        A sense of purpose is a key ingredient in a life that feels fulfilled and meaningful.

        Purpose in your life can take many forms. They are activities that give you a “worthwhile” feeling. They can be the opportunity to engage your skills and your passions. They can fully absorb you and make you lose track of time. They are the things that give meaning to your life.

        We are creatures that seek meaning in our lives. Without this – we can feel lost.

        It is important to understand the role of purpose in your life and ensure that it is part of your life’s balancing act.

        Your goal to find life balance

        Goals are an essential component of a life that feels good. They give your life essential structure, direction and a sense of achievement that helps you thrive. 

        However, all goals are not created equally. The key to goals that enrich your life is that they:

        • Are manageable and practicle in your busy life
        • Fit in with your personality and the way you live your life
        • Are built the right way and set you up for success

        The key to finding life balance

        It is easy to get caught up with your roles and responsibilities. As a result, you can easily end up in a balancing act that doesn’t actually align with who you are and what is important to you. 

        If you self-reflect and look at your life as a whole you can make sure you are tending to the key ingredients of your life. And if you are not you can set your goals accordingly.

        You might find that your life is not the juggling act you want – maybe you would prefer to be shot out of a cannon?

        Start your balance journey for free

        Finding life balance is something I am passionate about. Because, I have lived an unbalanced life that felt… blah.

        If you are looking for help to find balance in your life, check out this free course that will support you to explore all the areas in your life and take a step towards a life you love.

        This is not about finding more time in your busy life. It is about making sure your busy life is constructed from the right ingredients – the ingredients you need to fire the perfect cannonball.

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          Living a boring life – You can stop now

          Living a boring life – You can stop now

          You can stop life feeling bored and… blah.

          Research has found that living a boring life correlates with a lack of happiness and meaning. This means – the less we experience feelings of happiness and meaning in our day-to-day – the more bored with our lives we may feel.

          Let me start by taking you back a couple of years. I used to have a job that was unrewarding with very few enjoyable interactions in the day. And, I would spend all my free time on the couch – watching shows that were rarely enjoyable. 

          I was living a life that was low on meaning and happiness – it was a boring life.

          Now, as someone who dedicated years to a boring life. I know it can be hard to identify when you are living one. You get caught up in the routine (moving between a meaningless job and the couch) – and years can pass quite easily without you realising that things should be better.

          If you have found your way to reading this – then chances are something here resonates. And if it does, I want to encourage you to start thinking about making changes.

          So, if your life is feeling a bit boring… dull…. or, blah… please read on.

          (If in fact, you feel like your life is high on meaning/purpose & low on happiness – then you might prefer to read this article: Living a purposeful life is not quite enough)

          What is happiness & meaning? 

          This is not a straightforward question – but for the sake of this article lets define them as: 

          • Happiness: the existence of positive affect (and therefore the lack of negative feelings). This could be described as Hedonia (an ancient greek term) – meaning striving for joy, excitement, pleasure, comfort, etc.
          • Meaning: feelings of purpose, value and worthwhileness. This could be covered by the term Eudaimonia – meaning striving for purpose and growth.

          Both hedonia and eudaimonia have been found as components of life satisfaction.

          It should be noted that eudaimonia (or meaning) can ultimately bring happiness into your life as well (often in a healthier and more sustainable way). But, I won’t go on about the benefits here because I covered purpose & meaning in detail in this article: Living a purposeful life is not quite enough.

          So, today I am going to focus on the role of happiness (so you don’t have to live a boring life).

          Why you need happiness in your boring life

          There are a lot of benefits to having happiness in your life (besides the fact that it will make it less boring). 

          These can be physical, psychological and performance-based, such as: 

          Shawn Achor, the author of The Happiness Advantage, proposes that happiness and a positive mindset contributes to an increase in work performance across the board, including productivity, creativity and engagement.

          Do these benefits seem worthwhile to you?

          Why your loved ones need you – not to live a boring life

          Now that I have put the facts before you. Do you want to work on increasing the happiness in your life? There are many reasons to do it for yourself. 

          But, there is another important reason. 

          Your happiness has a great effect on the people around you. It only takes a couple of minutes for your mood to be transmitted to another person. In fact, the closer your relationship the easier your mood can be transferred.

          So – not only will a negative mood infect your loved ones. On the flip side – if you work on your happiness – not only will your life reap the benefits, the people around you will too, and the people around them, and so on. 

          You could be the cure to many boring lives. 

          Stop living a boring life

          What makes you happy in your day-to-day life – might not be immediately obvious to you.

          To put this another way. What brings you joy and excitement might be obvious. But, if you are like me, you may not realise how much time you spend on activities – that you mistakenly think are bringing you pleasure.

          As an example – as a natural couch potato. I assume much pleasure can come from watching TV. However, often, I can find myself in front of the box: 

          • Just looking for things to watch
          • Watching re-runs of shows that aren’t really amusing – or
          • Watching shows that make me unhappy or stressed out. 

          In fact, apparently our enjoyment peaks at about 30mins – then we slowly turn into a joyless potatos. So, in my world – that is many hours spent without pleasure or happiness.

          Sound familiar? 

          Living a boring life

          When you think about your days at work:

          • How often are you happy?
          • Does your work bring you meaning or excitement?
          • Do you have exchanges with clients & co-workers that bring you pleasure?
          • Do you manage to find enjoyment in breaks? 

          If you feel like you have a boring life – then maybe not. 

          So – as a first step towards dialling up the happiness in your life. I encourage you to: 

          1. Identify the activities in your day-to-day that make you happy
          2. Identify how often you are doing activities that make you happy in your week
          3. Think about how “happy” you are with this balance.

          This will be your (boring life) baseline from which you can build. And obviously, I encourage you to do this.

          If not for yourself – do it for me. (Because due to the degrees of separation in the world – eventually, your happiness contagion should make its way to me!) 

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